Listen

When I ask you to listen to me and you start giving me advice, you have not done what I asked.

When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I shouldn't feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.

 When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problems,          you have failed me.

Strange as it may feel....Listen.

All that I asked was that you listen, not talk or do, just hear me.

I can do for myself. I am not helpless, maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless. When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and inadequacy. But when you accept as simple fact that I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I can quit trying to convince you and get about the business of understanding what's behind the irrational feeling. And when that's clear, the answers are obvious and I don't need advice.

Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what's behind them. That's why prayer works sometimes, for some people, because God is mute. And He/She doesn't give advice or try to fix things....just listens and lets you work it out for yourself.

So, please listen, and just hear me, and if you want to talk just wait a minute for your turn, and I'll listen to you.

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